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Breaking Point

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The Mental Game


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Strength Of Spirit




“The best pace is a suicidal pace and today is a good day to die”. He was full of good quotes!   That’s the great thing about distance running….how much can you take? If you think your tough…try distance running!

The Decision

IMG_1709Teyonni and I are two people that both take risks. We even commit to these crazy challenging things under prepared-which I don’t know if that’s a strength or weakness. But it’s the coach/athlete dynamic that led us to take this risk and it was a risk considering our groups background (previous post). Fight day confirmed we were the underdog. The opponent came from a quality gym in their home town. It was like jumping off a cliff and hoping the parachute was working-but we had no way to test it out prior and we just had to jump. We were a small team diving into this new game far from home.

Once Teyonni got in the ring with her opponent it was a high volume of punches, kicks, and knees. It was an active and intense 6 minutes of striking. Teyonni got dropped by a knee to the body in the first round but like many times in her life she just got back up and fought on. She landed a leg kick that knocked her opponent down in the 2nd round and had a few flurries of punches that cleanly found the target.  Overall, our opponent got the better of us, was a good striker, and won the decision. We had trouble with her length, her knees to the body, and her skill set in general. Definitely some positive take aways but also just realizing we have to keep training and continuing to get better. That means working hard, continuing our education, and learning from good coaches whenever we get opportunities for that.

Teyonni become the first one on her team to ever compete. That’s pretty rare in combat sports to have a training group-where they have never competed. We can say we are new, under prepared, etc..but truth is that a lot of people are scared to compete-and I strongly value competition. She also went the distance battling through moments in the fight where it didn’t seem like she would be able to keep going.  Most importantly she made a small path into the jungle that athletes in our group will eventually follow and build upon. She is the only person most of them know that has ever competed in any type of combat sport.

It was a significant moment for our team for those reasons, but not glamorous. We always try to win and there are the emotions of disappointment or discouragement after a loss. Sometimes those emotions are devastating when your super invested in something. She wanted to win and do better and I wanted to help prepare her to be successful. We will regroup and come back wiser and more dangerous the second time around. I’ve been around sports for a long time and competed for years in track and field. Any sport endeavor is filled with extreme highs and lows and a lot of success is simply who lasts the longest and doesn’t give up. Hopefully that will be our story in the end!

PKF Kickboxing-Untold Stories

I drove 4 1/2 hours to attended Premium Kickboxing Federation IV on March 18th in Dubuque, IA. I was there to corner a first time amateur fighter and left the event with several impressions. A sold out crowd of over 600 watched a night of amateur kickboxing in what was a smoothly run event. I was told it was the first kickboxing event in over 30 years in the city of Dubuque. Had more of a family atmosphere to it than other events I’ve been to with kids competing on the card. It was noted by some that his event was largely ignored by the local press and media. What a mistake! I walked around the warm up areas and watched all the athletes, officials, and coaches. You could tell that a lot of back stories existed and would have been a gold mine for any journalist. I find it curious these combat sports events are largely uncovered by regional journalists in this and other areas. If events are covered sometimes you get win or loss stats, but rarely the story behind the stats. Is it ignorance, bias, disinterest, or stereo types?

Can you imagine some of the stories that were missed? People would have loved to know more of the background of what it took to get an event to Dubuque after that long of an absence. What kinds of things were driving the fighters to compete?  I’d like to know more about the families of the kids who competed, the people who came from out of state, the Dubuque Martial Arts Group, Luke Lessei, the promoters, and more. There’s a lot of great narratives flowing out of events like this and it’s a misstep to let them go unnoticed.

Personal stories connect with people. Athlete I was cornering has been open about her mental health struggles and her journey to recovery. Has anxiety but choose something stressful like fighting on purpose. A lot of people can’t relate to celebrities or millionaire athletes. But they can relate to struggle, sacrifice, discouragement, fear, anxiety, insecurities, and challenges in life. Many of those type of human interest stories I’m sure were walking around that night sadly untold or unnoticed.

One of the valuable reasons these stories should be told is because they help others and communities at large. To read something and know your not alone in that struggle. To be inspired by what someone else accomplished despite significant obstacles. Stories are meant to be told. People are meant to connect-even if at the end of each other’s fists. Somehow that connection might result in a deeper understanding of each other. The value of the stories that have gone untold could possibly bridge gaps, create understandings, strengthen communities, education, motivate, encourage, and inspire. There is a lot out there and more people should write about it!

Hopefully journalists will start to bring to light these stories on the regional combat sports scene. If not then the combat sports people themselves should start writing. As future events take place or time passes feel free to contact me if you have a lead on a story or a feature on an Iowa athlete that should be told!

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